Tag: and I hoped showing her the process might introduce her to a tool that could help her articulate her experience too. The problem was that my “interpreter” had mostly heard me. It knew my history

I have been thinking about contempt. That is one of the hazards of therapy school. You learn a name for something, and suddenly you begin seeing it everywhere—not because everyone around you has suddenly changed, but because your eyes have. John and Julie Gottman describe four communication patterns that can become particularly destructive in relationships:…