Tag: and understanding therapy does not grant me magical access to his private motives. What I do know is that the first return did not determine the entire volley. A contemptuous remark is an invitation

I have been thinking about contempt. That is one of the hazards of therapy school. You learn a name for something, and suddenly you begin seeing it everywhere—not because everyone around you has suddenly changed, but because your eyes have. John and Julie Gottman describe four communication patterns that can become particularly destructive in relationships:…