Tag: but I also know I cannot be the ones to solve your core wounds. Your mother will never take accountability. She will never help you move on from victimhood back to centering

I have been thinking about contempt. That is one of the hazards of therapy school. You learn a name for something, and suddenly you begin seeing it everywhere—not because everyone around you has suddenly changed, but because your eyes have. John and Julie Gottman describe four communication patterns that can become particularly destructive in relationships:…