Tag: but I made another mistake: I attached final diagnoses to my boundaries. “Please stop contacting me” is a boundary. “Please stop contacting me because you cannot move on

I have been thinking about contempt. That is one of the hazards of therapy school. You learn a name for something, and suddenly you begin seeing it everywhere—not because everyone around you has suddenly changed, but because your eyes have. John and Julie Gottman describe four communication patterns that can become particularly destructive in relationships:…