Tag: but you are apparently unaware of how unhealed you are and how hard that is on the ones who love you. I am sorry to be so blunt

I have been thinking about contempt. That is one of the hazards of therapy school. You learn a name for something, and suddenly you begin seeing it everywhere—not because everyone around you has suddenly changed, but because your eyes have. John and Julie Gottman describe four communication patterns that can become particularly destructive in relationships:…